Sunday 16 June 2019

Real wedding: A rustic Cotswold celebration at The Barn at Upcote

Following a romantic proposal in Bali, Natalie and Rob Desborough tied the knot with a rustic countryside celebration at The Barn at Upcote, complete with afternoon tea, music from The Chip Shop Boys, and gin-themed décor.

The lowdown

The happy couple: Natalie Desborough, 30, a teacher, and Rob Desborough, also 30, a sales engineer, who live in Cheltenham
Wedding date: Friday 18 August 2017
Ceremony and reception venue: The Barn at Upcote
Wedding theme: Rustic barn

The suppliers

Photographer: Brad Wakefield Photography
Flowers: Oops A Daisy in Cirencester; the bride wanted pale pink and blue colours and a ‘just picked out of a field’ look
Dress: 'Louise' by Alfred Angelo, bought from Cotswold Bride
Bridesmaid dresses: Pale pink dresses with flower and pearl detailing from Quiz
Groom’s outfit: The groom wore chinos, a waistcoat and jacket combination, sourced from a range of suppliers
Cake: A naked cake with fruit detail from the Cake and Sugercraft Boutique
Catering: Afternoon tea from Orchard Catering
Stationery: A rustic craft card design from Norma Dorothy Stationery
Entertainment: The Chip Shop Boys played in the evening, and the Gloucestershire Magician provided some exciting magic between the day and evening
Hair and beauty: Amy Hickey did the bride's make-up, and Sarah from Koco Cream Hairdressers did her hair
Rings including engagement ring: The engagement ring is a diamond twist from Ernest Jones and the wedding rings were designed and made by CoolJoolz.

The details

When and how did you first meet?

We were both on a night out in Cheltenham at one of its main nightclubs and whilst in the piano bar listening to the sounds of the piano player (who ended up being the husband of one of Natalie’s colleagues and ended up playing the ceremony music at our wedding), we got talking at the bar.

A rustic celebration at The Barn at Upcote

Who popped the big question and how did they propose?

Rob popped the question on a romantic holiday in Bali. He had organised a rooftop meal overlooking our hotel ‘The Maya’ and the beach. We had live traditional Balinese music playing and a canopy over our table, which was covered in flowers.

He went to the toilet for a really long time, and it just so happened that he went back to the room to get the ring. When he got back he said the moon looked really beautiful and wanted to take a photo of me in front of it overlooking the ocean. I did this and then just as I thought he was going to take the photo, he got down on one knee.

A rustic celebration at The Barn at Upcote

How long did it take you to plan your wedding?

He proposed to me on the 19 August 2016 and we got married on the 18 August 2017, so 364 days.

Why did you choose your venue?

From the moment we drove around the corner and saw the driveway and the steps we knew it was the one for us. We wanted a sense of togetherness and the venue really brings everything together. Each building flows really well into one another, so there is never an aspect of feeling separated which can happen so often with other venues.

A rustic celebration at The Barn at Upcote

A rustic celebration at The Barn at Upcote

Was there an inspiration or theme for your wedding?

We both grew up in the countryside and love being outside. We are the happy owners of four gorgeous collie dogs so spend most of our time walking through fields and woods. The inspiration came from wanting to bring the outside in.

What made you choose your photographer?

We had been following Brad’s photos for a while as Rob went to the same secondary school as him and he had photographed other people’s weddings that he knew. We love the way he is able to capture moments in a non-intrusive way.

How did your wedding photographer capture your big day memories?

We didn’t want very many posed photographs as we didn’t like everyone with ‘fake smiles’ so there were lots of action shots.

A rustic celebration at The Barn at Upcote

Did you hire a wedding planner or was it a DIY affair?

It was a DIY affair with lots of ideas from Pinterest and Natalie’s best friend who was getting married a month before.

A rustic celebration at The Barn at Upcote

A rustic celebration at The Barn at Upcote

Did you make, design or create anything yourself?

Natalie created the order of the day sign, which was painted onto a wooden pallet, as well as the seating plan, which was done in a similar way with a wooden pallet and cards pegged onto it to show where guests would be seated.

Natalie also collected gin bottles and put labels around the necks of them to create centrepieces for the tables as gin is our favourite drink.

A rustic celebration at The Barn at Upcote

Tell us about the wedding dress

Natalie got her dress from Cotswold Bride which was called ‘Louise’ by Alfred Angelo. Georgie, the owner of Cotswold Bride, was so helpful and Natalie wouldn’t have had the experience without her.

It was a strapless, sweetheart neckline with a champagne lace over an ivory underdress. It had a dropped waist out into a fit and flair. Natalie added a sparkly belt to the middle to give it a bit of sparkle, matching the veil which also had sparkle and pearl edging.

A rustic celebration at The Barn at Upcote

What did the groom wear?

Rob wore grey chinos with a white shirt. A matching navy waistcoat and jacket finished with a navy and pink flowery bow-tie.

Did you incorporate any special family details or heirlooms, for example?

Natalie had her late Nan’s earrings wired into her bouquet to add some sparkle. Natalie also wore the same garter that both of Rob’s sisters wore on their wedding day; it’s hoped that the daughters from here on in will also wear it.

Did you have something old, new, borrowed and blue?

Yes; something old was the earrings in my bouquet, something blue was a blue heart sewn onto Natalie’s garter which had been worn previously by Rob’s sisters so this also counted as the borrowed aspect too, and something new was the wedding dress.

A rustic celebration at The Barn at Upcote

What song did you walk down the aisle to?

‘A Thousand Years’ by Christina Perri.

What did you have for your wedding breakfast?

We had an afternoon tea.

A rustic celebration at The Barn at Upcote

A rustic celebration at The Barn at Upcote

What kind of cake did you go for?

We went for a naked cake, choosing Victoria sponge with forest fruits surrounding its layers.

What was your first dance song?

We had ‘I’ll Be There’ by the Jackson 5. It was a special song to us as we were trying to decide what to have then one day it came on when Natalie was in the kitchen and Rob was in the living room and as soon as we both heard it we both shouted ‘this is the one’.

A rustic celebration at The Barn at Upcote

What was your favourite part of your wedding day?

The wedding breakfast. Sitting back and looking at all of our guests knowing they were all there to celebrate us. It made us feel extremely loved and grateful to have them all in our lives. Dancing with the Chip Shop Boys was also amazing!

A rustic celebration at The Barn at Upcote

Did everything go to plan?

Not a major one but it rained. This meant that Natalie’s entrance was a lot shorter than planned; she wanted to walk down the beautiful steps that enter the venue, but due to the rain it would have been too slippery and dangerous. It totally didn’t matter though!

What advice would you give anyone planning their big day?

Make a list! Research your photographer as they are the ones that will capture your memories forever. If there is anywhere in a wedding to spend money this should be it. Think about what really matters to you and spend your money there. It is about you being happy and a day that you will remember.

A rustic celebration at The Barn at Upcote

A rustic celebration at The Barn at Upcote

Is there anything you know now that you wished you’d known before the big day?

No, I don’t think so; we researched a lot.

And finally, where did you spend your honeymoon together?

We went on a safari in Kenya. It was an amazing experience and something we had both always dreamed of doing. We travelled through four different national parks: Amboseli, Lake Naivasha, Lake Nakuru and The Masai Mara.

If Natalie and Rob’s Cotswold wedding has inspired you, see The Barn at Upcote, call (01242) 890332, email, or visit directly.

© SoGlos
Wednesday 03 January 2018

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